Reclaim Your Power in Relationships
Are you tired of walking on eggshells around certain people?
Do some people make you feel like you are never enough?
I know exactly what that feels like.
As the daughter of parents with narcissistic and borderline personality disorders, I never felt safe or protected around my parents. I spent my whole childhood focused on trying to avoid their anger, their criticism, or their put-downs. Then when I tried to seek help and understanding for the emotional abuse, I was told that my parents would never do or say those things! While I was always seen as mature for my age, whenever I spoke about my parents, I was treated as if I were crazy. It was so confusing!
I was shaped by my early and repeated exposure to emotional abuse.
This experience profoundly shaped how I felt about myself and how I approached relationships. Because I saw myself through their eyes, I hated myself. To earn love, I focused too much on pleasing others. I wondered why as an adult, people didn’t respect me or love me. Meanwhile, too many people that did show up in my life ended up being abusive. Why I thought, do I keep attracting more emotional abuse? When I thought, will this ever stop?
I had to find a way to stop the endless cycle of emotional abuse!
For the past five months, I had been dealing with a co-worker’s controlling behavior. I had feelings of anxiousness and dread whenever I had to be in her presence. Dr. Tina uncovered my co-worker’s narcissism. In one session, Dr. Tina was able to resolve this negative situation. A day after our clearing session, I was amazed and grateful! Those feelings of anxiety and dread were replaced with a sense of peace, ease and calmness! Plus my co-worker is now treating me with respect and consideration. Thank you Dr. Tina!
To stop what felt like endless trauma, I had to find powerful methods to release the deep-rooted self-loathing and all the things I hated about myself. I had to release the anger, the trauma, the fears of being unlovable, and the deep-seated feelings of abandonment and betrayal. I had to let go of my victim mentality. I had to learn how to set healthy boundaries. I had to restore my trust in people and the universe. I had to feel worthy of love, success, and abundance. I had to learn self-compassion, embrace empowerment, and open my heart to safe relationships.
Luckily I found powerful healing methods to do this.
Knowing their diagnoses gave me a context for understanding their behaviors and how it impacted me. Learning about patterns of family members who live with these personalities, gave me a helicopter view of who I had become. It helped me learn what unhealthy behaviors I had taken on to survive, and what I needed to do differently to have the kind of relationships I want!
Are you Ready To Let Go of the Trauma?
I realized my story is far from unique.
I’ve had so many clients who’ve struggled with complex PTSD from years or decades of emotional abuse. Many of my clients had been convinced by their abusers that they (the abusers) were the ones that were being abused.
My clients struggled with the shame and guilt of never being able to be enough.
Depending on the length and timing of abuse, some of my clients turned to self-abuse and were as harsh with themselves as their abusers. Sometimes they wanted me to change them to satisfying their abuser, regardless of whether the accusations had any merit. Many of them did not realize their abuser(s) have an undiagnosed personality type that would help them understand why their experience was so challenging.
Having been there, and knowing how hard life can be when you can’t see a way out, I’ve made it my mission to show you how much things can change.
Can you imagine...
- Having safe and supportive relationships?
- No longer being upset by abusive people?
- Knowing who to trust and who is safe to let into your heart?
- Having people in your life that give as much to the relationships as you do?
- Feeling valued, respected and loved by the people you care the most about?
- Being able to treat yourself and others with compassion?
- A life where you get to focus on your own goals and dreams?
- Feeling empowered to get your needs met?
- Waking up excited each day for what the world has to offer?
I know all this is possible because I’ve not only witnessed this with clients, but I feel it myself!
I am happy to let you know that my whole life has changed for the better! Beginning a new relationship was not the only positive change…..I am way happier and busier overall…….I am participating more fully in life on several levels. I am a much happier person! I have gone from being sad and hiding at home ALL THE TIME, into loving life so much, I AM OUT IN THE WORLD ENJOYING LIFE AGAIN!!
I was grieving the loss of my husband, and after two years there was no progress in my life. I also didn’t have much trust in myself or others, especially men.The first glorious change for me is that you have cleared me from holding onto all the bad experiences (memories) with men – GONE. I am still enjoying, to the fullest, my new relationship. I never thought I could ever feel so close with another man! My new partner treats me like I always wanted to be treated and the way I behave towards my new partner is loving and caring. I no longer feel jaded or suspicious nor do I look at things with a critical eye. I actually feel like my old wonderful self and I am so fulfilled with the JOY OF LIVING!!
I’ve also been meeting new friends wherever I go and I am strengthening the bonds with close friends I have already. Before our healing sessions, I was isolated, not reaching out, and hiding from my friends because I didn’t want them to know how hard everything was for me since my husband died – in other words I was very grumpy – NO MORE!!
SO, YES, everything has shifted. My transformation feels like a miracle! I am shining, others notice it too and are drawn to me – it’s all new to me AND I LOVE IT!! I am truly grateful for your help – you helped me so much and it has made my life so much better!
You don't have to suffer alone. Your life can get so much better with the right support. Let me show you how.
How do we get our power back?
Introducing my 7-step signature system *UPLIFTS!
How to end the cycle of emotional abuse and move beyond surviving, to THRIVING!!!
We will use my Holistic Brain Health Approach to:
1. Understand
Understand the toxic personality types and their patterns and how they have impacted you.
2. Purge the pain
We help you let go of the trauma lodged in your tissues.
3. Let you love you
We help you let go of any self-loathing and behaviors that contribute to self-hatred. You’ll realize that you are worthy of love and self-compassion. This is a vital step to attracting loving relationships.
4. Activate your Inner guardian
We’ll help you set healthy boundaries. You’ll learn at a gut level that you are worthy of being treated well and that anyone who isn’t capable of that, isn’t worth your time.
5. Focus on you
If you’ve spent your whole life walking on eggshells, you may struggle with prioritizing your own needs over others. Let’s focus on what you want in life!
6. Take your power back
If you haven’t been able to get your needs met, and you feel sabotaged, then there may be a part of you that feels like a victim to people, the world, or circumstances. If this resonates with you, we help you let go of the part of you that feels like a victim, so that you feel empowered to get what you want out of life and relationships!
7. Learning who is Safe to trust
If you’ve grown up with unsafe people, it can be hard to know who to trust. We can release barriers to trusting trustworthy people.
*Treatment will be customized to meet the needs of the client. Each person’s challenges will vary depending on their experience and inherited history. Regardless, I am committed to helping you manifest the life you want!
You can do more than just struggle to survive!
YOU CAN THRIVE!
I have never had a good long term relationship. I’ve only had 2. The first was a long abusive marriage and the second is my present boyfriend of almost 2yrs. I thought my relationship was pretty good before my work with Tina, but I was holding on to some anger over something that happened early on in our relationship. We had supposedly made up, but I’d keep bringing the past up every once in a while and getting angry all over again or I’d say mean things to him and start fights over stupid things.
After working with Dr. Tina my relationship is so different. We rarely ever fight and I don’t bring up the past anymore. When he does something now that used to upset me, I don’t get angry, instead I’m incredibly patient with him and try to understand his feelings better. I’m so much more calm and happy. He’s noticed the changes in me as well. I’m very grateful for the work Dr. Tina has done, it’s pretty miraculous. It works when nothing else will.
Are you ready to let go of the cycle of emotional abuse and work on manifesting a life on your own terms?
If so, contact me here to find out what is possible for you!
